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My Kids, My Responsibility

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 train up a child

One of the most important things you will ever do for or with your children is to disciple them to a living, personal faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.  We live in a society that assumes that when children grow up they will automatically cast off the family’s beliefs and values.  But the Bible sees things differently.  The book of Proverbs says that the childhood years have a formative influence that lasts throughout life: “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Prov. 22:6).

There are a number of mistakes that I see Christian parents making today.  One of those is to think that our duty as Christian parents consists solely of disciplining our children.  Now I want to make it clear that I wish more parents were engaged in this part of the process and would stop trying to be their child’s best friend and be the parent.  The Bible clearly states the importance of discipline (see Heb. 12:6Prov. 13:24).  But discipline – the process of bringing the will into submission – is not enough.

Something else that a lot of well meaning parents do is to think that all they need to do is to find a good church or children/student program and drop them off and everything will be great.  That just add water, microwave mentality is most certainly a recipe for disaster when it comes to discipling our children.  I won’t deny that a great group at church for your children is an asset in your discipling process, but it’s not the silver bullet so many parents are looking for.  Our generation is seeing a shockingly high percentage of young people raised in a Christian environment who do not continue in the faith outside of the home.  Surely, the primary reason is the poor quality of Christian discipling that is taking place in our churches.  But I am persuaded that another reason is that many parents do not recognize their role in discipling their children in the faith.

What does it look like for me to disciple my children?  To ask that question indicates that you’re starting to realize the importance of discipling your children. As a christian parent I was always wondering, “Am I doing enough?  How can I be sure that I’m really discipling my kids?” We can find insights about discipling our kids from both the Old Testament and the New Testament. In the Old Testament, we receive specific direction from Moses to parents. In the New Testament we learn about discipleship from the example of Christ.

In Deuteronomy 6, Moses is giving his farewell speech to the people he loved and he specifically speaks to the parents in the group. Of all the important things he wants them to remember, verses 5-7 sum up the how-to of discipling children.

  1. “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and strength.” Verse 5 starts with your own heart. In order for you to disciple your children, you need to love the Lord yourself.
  2. “Speak the Word of God to your children all the time.” Verse 7 tells us to speak to our children about God and His Word–when we’re sitting at home, when we’re traveling, when we lie down for bed, and when we wake up. In a nutshell, speak to your children about Him all the time.

In the New Testament we have the example of discipleship as done by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He chose a group of 12 men and did life together with them pouring into them as the first disciples.  Notice that we learn from Jesus example many of the same things we learned from Moses.  We see Jesus over and over in the Gospels speaking to His disciples and teaching them God’s Word. Two examples where we see this taking place in the Scriptures are:  Mark 4:34, “He did not speak to them without a parable, but privately to his own disciples he explained everything.”   Again in Luke 24:27, “and beginning with Moses and all the Prophets, he interpreted to them in all the Scriptures the things concerning himself.”

The process of discipling children really consists of loving God with all your heart and speaking His Word to them. Share with them how God’s word has impacted you, teach them what you’ve learned from your quiet time. Talk to them before bed, when they wake up, while you’re at home, and while you’re traveling. If you’re having trouble starting these conversations, here is a link to a resource you can take advantage of to get things rolling (http://d6family.com/splink/.)  Scroll to the bottom, enter your email address, and each week you’ll receive three great conversation starters to help you in the process of discipling your children. Be encouraged that the God who has called you to do this will help you accomplish it as well.

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